I don't particularly care about what happened in the past, and your reflections on the past does not give you any free pass to act in an insulting and belittling manner now, nor in the future. Infractions are not based on any yardstick measuring what someone may have said to or about you in the past, and therefor allowing a tit for tat response.
Infractions are not made public, and they are used where it appears applicable. So no, you will not know who got infractions and how many or the level of which, they may have incurred. Which, quite frankly, is irrelevant to what YOU post. If you don't want to get infractions, then don't act in a manner whereby you will earn them, REGARDLESS of what anyone else says or does here that you may feel that you MUST reply in like kind. If they violate the rules, and staff here reads such posts, then quite likely they will get infractions. I say "quite likely" because it's not a given that any of the mods will agree with YOUR assessment of such posts.
But bear in mind that none of the mods, and myself in particular, are under any requirement to read every post made on this site. So it is entirely possible for someone to make a post that would deserve an infraction IF it were read by one or more of the moderators, but does not. If someone is posting personal slurs towards you, let them. Just report the posts, and eventually they will likely get banned if the infractions don't change their attitude. If you reply in like kind, all that will mean is that YOU might possibly get banned too. Taking the higher ground is well advised in situations of this nature.
Where you are apparently running afoul is by being insulting and using derogatory slurs towards other members. Perhaps this is not something that other sites you frequent are much concerned about, but I really don't care how someone else, or someplace else, enforces their rules (or lack thereof). And I particularly have no interest in spending my time discussing such matters with you personally at length. There is a thread in the Board of Inquiry forum at the top explaining general rules for posting there that in many cases apply to the entire site. And I believe there is a FAQ section around here somewhere that may help you in that regard as well. But with or without such guidance, I believe just using some common courtesy, and at the very least READ your own posts and reflect on how any personal attacks coming from someone else being directed at YOU would make an impression on you, is in order.
Oh yeah, please note that just because someone may say something that you do not like is not going to automatically put it in the classification of being something that is against the rules and therefore automatically result in the other party being smited with an infraction. Someone disagreeing with you is not an infractionable offense on this site.
