This is my first time and last buying off of here though. Which is unfortunate for everyone else.
Bottom line, you say he has all he needs to refund you, great.
As for how you both arrived at this point, I'm not sure. Shipping during this time of year is hard for anyone. That is not an excuse, it is a reality. I personally don't bother even posting animals for sale that require shipping this time of year.
As for the above quote, I would change it to say, "unfortunate for me too".
Unfortunate that you attempted a purchase
once and it now has become your guiding light for a blanket statement "last (time) buying".
Perhaps you had a unfavorable experience with an
unknown member.
There are plenty of very well known breeders here that you will be closing the door on, which is your choice.
This site has gone to lengths to help users try to do their homework prior to purchase.
1. BOI search "before" you send money, not after you send it.
2. Trader Ratings to see their past history as both a seller & buyer
3. Karma rating lets you see their participation level here. Are they simply here to sell an item, OR are the "known" here on the site through their contributions.
4. Full name & location requirements, not just user names.
5. Member "since" dates
This does not make someone bad or good, but it sure helps in your homework when deciding who and who not to do business with.
Not speaking for the seller in your case, but not all sellers are the same, AND not all buyers are good customers either.