homegrownherps said:
Rude is most definitely part of the equation, first off... if someone is rude to me, especially a potential customer... I will tell them to take a hike. Just because they are giving me money for a product , does not give them the right to be rude and disrespectful. I don't care how much money I turn away because of it.
Secondly, if your rude with me expect only the same in return, because at that point I wouldn't care if I was right or wrong. People get from me exactly what they give.
If they had a better attitude from the beginning things would have most likely turn out allot differently.
I think we're talking about two different things. If someone is rude before a transaction is completed, I can (and will) choose not to do business with them. What I mean is this:
A purchase involves the exchange of money for goods. If I sell someone a defective product, for example, and then they come back wanting a refund because it is defective, they deserve a refund, end of story. If they are rude to me, that does not negate the fact that they paid me for goods I did not deliver. In effect, this is saying "you owe me money for being rude to me."
I have seen a lot of this on the BOI, where someone takes money and then does not deliver the goods because the buyer was rude to them, as if that justifies keeping someone's money. IMO that is nothing more than theft. If you want to not do business with someone, that also includes not taking their money (or returning it if you've already received it.)
Does this also work the other way, that if I'm holding the snake while getting my money out and you are rude to me, I get to walk away with the snake without paying?
Anyway, the above is a generic statement and not aimed at this exact situation. I am not saying that in this case you owed them a refund. I don't think you gave them a defective product, I think they "destroyed" it after it was purchased. I agree with your handling of the situation.
But, again, what I don't agree with is the seemingly popular sentiment (expressed by many, in many threads) that if someone is rude to the seller, the seller gets to keep their money without holding up their side of the contract.